My spiritual teacher of nearly 40 years crossed over a few days ago, and once again I find myself dealing with grief. My mother left this earthly life last August, and my best friend left this past March.
Over the years I’ve learned that grief coexists with attachment – attachment to the physical, to an idea, to a belief, to loss, to fear of the unknown. As gravity keeps us grounded on Mother Earth, attachment keeps us grounded on the physical plane. Attachment is a function of ego, and ego’s only purpose is to keep us in form. So I ask myself:
How does one transcend grief and stay in form?
In my younger days, grief would overwhelm and paralyze me. Sleep, the only escape that offered any relief, consumed all my daily functions. Since then I’ve learned that escape, other than in small periodic doses, doesn’t ameliorate or extinguish grief – it merely anesthetizes it, during which time grief covertly wreaks havoc with our bodies, minds, emotions, and spirits. Grief seizes our hearts and holds us in suspended animation until we acknowledge it. Grief demands recognition. It holds us hostage until we feel it, intensely and profoundly, before
s-l-o-w-l-y letting go.
The grief I feel today over the loss of my dear teacher is a thin water-colored image compared with the dense oil-based images of years ago. This doesn’t minimize the love and respect I have for her. I deeply feel the loss of her physical presence. I also sense her spirit, playfulness, and joy with heightened awareness. I’ve been clairsentient all my life, so the only thing that’s changed is my perception of grief. While exploring every fiber of its texture, I dove deep and surfaced so many times that I now know grief intimately. It no longer frightens me. It no longer controls me. I can explore its depth and breadth with tears and longing, all without succumbing to the weight of its being. Although my heart aches and reaches out for what has moved on, I can dive deep and surface at will.
So, I suppose the answer to my question is:
Transcendence is transformation, not transmutation.
Meeting grief’s challenge can ignite eagle vision without defying gravity. It can allow us to hover above base emotions without losing integrity.
One of the first lessons my teacher shared with me was:
It’s what we choose not to look at that controls our life.
Energy follows thought.
She taught me well. Thank you, Lynn. Travel lightly, dear sister. I will see you again. My heart to your heart 💕
Namaste, my friends ❤️
©Tina Frisco 2022
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Hugs, sister ❤️
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I’m sorry for your loss, Tina. I am hoping your joyful memories of Lynn will overtake your grief.
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Thank you, John. I have many joyful memories of her ❤️
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My heart is with you, Tina.
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Thank you for your caring energy, Jacqui ❤️
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I’m so sorry for your loss, Tina 💔
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Thank you, Christy. Hugs ❤️
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Thank you, my friend. Your new blog is awesome and so informative. You must be delighted with its presentation. Please tell me where to find your reblog so I can comment. I truly appreciate your thoughtfulness ❤️
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I’m so sorry about Lynn, T. Your words make so much sense. As one still climbing through the journey of grief, I know well of what you speak. Hugs my Sister ❤ xx
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Thanks, Deb. Having friends to travel with on this arduous journey is a blessing. Hugs back to you, dear sister ❤️❤️
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I’m very sorry for your loss. This is beautiful writing and reflection on grief. May your connection remain strong as your relationship with her continues in a different form. 💐
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Thank you, dear Ka, for your sweet and comforting words. I haven’t been around the blogging community for a few years, due to circumstances beyond my control. So I really appreciate your stopping by and keeping in touch. Sending you love and light ❤️
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Hi Tina.. So sorry you have had so much grief within a short space of time….
And knowing what we know, we understand death is but a door that has been closed to us for the time being and one day we will meet on the other side of that door when its time for us to walk through it.
Sending you thoughts Tina… Good to catch up with you again. ❤
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Thank you, my friend. So good to catch up with you. Yes, death is to life as waking is to sleep. I think we should have a grand party when we all get there 🙂 I’m so glad you stopped by. Hugs and blessings to you ❤️
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Sis, I’m so very sorry for your loss. I don’t get notifications much of the time for posts, so I have to go searching for blogs. Just know I’m wrapping you in a huge hug. ❤️
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Thanks, sis. Hug received, appreciated, and returned❤️
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“It no longer frightens me. It no longer controls me. I can explore its depth and breadth with tears and longing, all without succumbing to the weight of its being. Although my heart aches and reaches out for what has moved on, I can dive deep and surface at will.” This is exactly how I feel, Tina, even while my grief is so fresh. I couldn’t have said it better. I’m sorry for your losses and comforted by your sense of wholeness and integrity. Hugs, my friend.
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It’s good to see you, Diana. I’ve been relatively absent from blogging for a few years (issues I won’t explain here), so your comment and shared sentiment are especially appreciated. Hugs back to you, my friend ❤️
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Yes, I noticed and missed you. I hope you’re feeling well and peaceful.
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Thank you, Diana. I hope the same for you.
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